The bargaining begins...

IllinoisJones · Post by **IllinoisJones** » Sun Sep 18, 2005 2:04 am

So I have continued talking with my wife, and now she says she wants a $650.00 sewing machine! She doesn't even know how to sew! This woman is driving me nuts. She said she doesn't mind hats, it is just that the Indy hat is so ugly! I think she was just trying to be mean. I am going to continue bargaining, but on the other hand if it gets her off my case, and me the hat, I may just buy her the sewing machine. Illinois

IndianaWill · Post by **IndianaWill** » Sun Sep 18, 2005 2:55 am

:!: Suggestion! Shop for a used one. You can usually find a digital for a fairly good price! Or even a Standard model, for even less money....

Then you can get your Fedora!!!

When she is satifed, you are satifed...Keep a step ahead!!! Give her saisfaction!! You win! You get your AB...

Have a Great Day!!

IndianaWill

Colby · Post by **Colby** » Sun Sep 18, 2005 10:12 am

Make sure she learns how to sew on epaulets and shirt pleats!

Feraud · Post by **Feraud** » Sun Sep 18, 2005 10:17 am

IllinoisJones wrote:So I have continued talking with my wife, and now she says she wants a $650.00 sewing machine! She doesn't even know how to sew! This woman is driving me nuts.

Let me understand this...

She wants $650.00 for a sewing maching because you want to spend $250.00 for a hat? Hmmm, why the $400.00 difference?.....

Propose to her this one and only solution:

She use $250.00 for whatever she wants and you use $250.00 for whatever you want.

It matters not how ugly she thinks your hat is or that she cannot sew.

Case closed!

agent5 · Post by **agent5** » Sun Sep 18, 2005 10:32 am

Bargaining?

And it's...YOUR money? Where does the term 'bargaining' come into play?

Sounds to me as if she wants to do some controlling.

You need to first off, buy your hat. Case closed. Then she can't bytch about it anymore. It's done and over with. Ignore her anger and tell her to go buy the stupid sewing machine if it'll make her feel any better, even though she can't sew. After all, who are you to tell her she doesn't need it, especially if you can afford it.
If she really is just doing this to get under your skin you'll be selling the sewing machine in 6 months for $50 less than you paid and that'll be your money for the Aldens and a Wested. There you go.

STAND UP FOR YOURSELF, MAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

...jeez.

prairiejones · Post by **prairiejones** » Sun Sep 18, 2005 11:04 am

Get a lawyer.

Colby · Post by **Colby** » Sun Sep 18, 2005 11:22 am

prairiejones wrote:Get a lawyer.

Good point!

ob1al · Post by **ob1al** » Sun Sep 18, 2005 11:42 am

My advice:

If you can afford it, buy the hat. Then its a fate accompli and there's nothing can be done about it.

If you can't afford it, then your wife is right! Wives are a million times more important than hats.

BTW my wife's standing behind me as I write this...

Regards

Al

Indy_Railok · Post by **Indy_Railok** » Sun Sep 18, 2005 11:45 am

It's great to be young and withouth any wifes..

Bufflehead Jones · Post by **Bufflehead Jones** » Sun Sep 18, 2005 11:48 am

Indy_Railok wrote:It's great to be young and withouth any wifes..

I've had a couple of 'em. You want to borrow one?

IndyGear with Dear Abby

Take my advice, I'm not using it.

Indy_Railok · Post by **Indy_Railok** » Sun Sep 18, 2005 11:49 am

Bufflehead Jones wrote: I've had a couple of 'em. You want to borrow one?

Are they distressed and non-tapered?

Fedora · Post by **Fedora** » Sun Sep 18, 2005 1:18 pm

This woman is driving me nuts. She said she doesn't mind hats, it is just that the Indy hat is so ugly

Grounds for a divorce!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My wife told me once, it is either the hats, or her. I sure miss that gal.

Fedora

Bufflehead Jones · Post by **Bufflehead Jones** » Sun Sep 18, 2005 1:42 pm

They are definitely distressed after living with me.

Feraud · Post by **Feraud** » Sun Sep 18, 2005 2:22 pm

ob1al wrote:If you can't afford it, then your wife is right! Wives are a million times more important than hats.

BTW my wife's standing behind me as I write this...

Regards

Al

Erri · Post by **Erri** » Sun Sep 18, 2005 2:40 pm

Maybe some COW girl (no pun) could post a message in this thread

jeboat · Post by **jeboat** » Sun Sep 18, 2005 3:26 pm

One thing to always remember in a family(or business) squabble is "It is ALWAYS about the money!!!" Don't be distracted about the sewing machine or any thing else she may or may not be using as leverage.

She thinks that $250.00 is a lot of $$$ for a hat, and she is correct! But, it really is not much money when one considers how little else is available for that sum. A good hat will last a lifetime, what else do you own that will last that long?

jeboat

Erri · Post by **Erri** » Sun Sep 18, 2005 3:44 pm

Jetboat i adore your sign

Canyon · Post by **Canyon** » Sun Sep 18, 2005 6:02 pm

erri_wan wrote:Maybe some COW girl (no pun) could post a message in this thread

Your wish is my command!

I type this message whilst wearing my fedora.

Illinois, I am symptathetic to your wife's cause, but in my opinion, marriage is all about compromise.

At the end of the day, you are going to find yourself in a situation whereby you and your partner do not agree on everything, and there are going to be times when your views will clash.

She may just see you spending $250 on a hat as a waste of time. She may see it simply as a whim. I feel that if your money is jointly coming in, then you should both have a say in what that money is spent on. Also, I agree with Agent5 with what he said in the other thread:

agent5 wrote:If the bills are all paid with no reason to think they won't in the future, you're not a druggie, a gambler, addicted to prostitutes or anything of the like...

Sorry that this does not give you a solution as such. For me, I guess I'm quite biased becasuse I am a female Indiana Jones fan. I have loved Indy quite literally half of my life (I was 16 when the obsession began).

Hope you can resolve this minus the broken crockery.

Erri · Post by **Erri** » Sun Sep 18, 2005 6:12 pm

Canyon wrote:
erri_wan wrote:Maybe some COW girl (no pun) could post a message in this thread
Your wish is my command!

You might be interested also in the twin thread then

:lol::lol:

viewtopic.php?p=188915#188915

Flattery · Post by **Flattery** » Sun Sep 18, 2005 6:25 pm

My wife told me once, it is either the hats, or her. I sure miss that gal.

crazylegsmurphy · Post by **crazylegsmurphy** » Mon Sep 19, 2005 1:05 am

Fedora wrote:
This woman is driving me nuts. She said she doesn't mind hats, it is just that the Indy hat is so ugly

Grounds for a divorce!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My wife told me once, it is either the hats, or her. I sure miss that gal. Fedora

Now this is a guy that not only makes an awesome hat, but is wise....oh so wise!

Texas Raider · Post by **Texas Raider** » Mon Sep 19, 2005 2:52 am

(Hey, if my wife had a thing where she had to dress like Raggedy-Anne all the time, I'd be weirded out by it.) Luckily, a fedora in public is a little more forgiving.

PPPPHHHHHFAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!

have a nice day.

Texas Raider · Post by **Texas Raider** » Mon Sep 19, 2005 2:54 am

Bufflehead Jones wrote:
Indy_Railok wrote:It's great to be young and withouth any wifes..
I've had a couple of 'em. You want to borrow one?

I've had a couple of them too,, then I let 'em go back to their husbands!

have a nice day.

Indy_Railok · Post by **Indy_Railok** » Mon Sep 19, 2005 4:44 am

Texas Raider wrote:
Bufflehead Jones wrote:
Indy_Railok wrote:It's great to be young and withouth any wifes..
I've had a couple of 'em. You want to borrow one?

I've had a couple of them too,, then I let 'em go back to their husbands!

Send them through airmail or ground mail.

I know Erri wants one too..

Pandora · Post by **Pandora** » Mon Sep 19, 2005 5:20 am

This is one thing I don't understand: "you get something...then I want something too...". SO you always get something when your wifes buys something for her (clothes, make up, ...)? probably not.
Spending money is no comeptition.

I think in a relationship both should be happy. And if it's a certain hat that makes you happy...go for it. If a sewing machine is what makes your wife happy... get her one (if you can afford that, if not, save money and buy it later).
But to me it sounds like..."oh a sewing machine, I don't have one yet, maybe I never use it but I have one... right time to ask now since he wants this hat".

Don't argue about it, talk about. Tell her that this hat is something that makes you happy, you will wear it often so it's worth the money. Ask her if she really wants this sewing machine and not only to keep you from buying the hat.

when I told my boyfriend that I was going to order my Wested I was a bit afraid that he would react the same way your wife did. But he said if you want it (paid it with my money) get it. He does the same. If he wants something expensive we talk about it and if we can afford it and it is necessary and useful we buy it.

my advice: talk about it. no fight.. an AB is worth a lot but not a fight with the beloved wife...

Erri · Post by **Erri** » Mon Sep 19, 2005 6:11 am

Indy_Railok wrote:
Texas Raider wrote:
Bufflehead Jones wrote:
Indy_Railok wrote:It's great to be young and withouth any wifes..
I've had a couple of 'em. You want to borrow one?

I've had a couple of them too,, then I let 'em go back to their husbands!
Send them through airmail or ground mail.

I know Erri wants one too..

Moi? No no thanks

i'm still toooooo young for marriage and i have enough busytime with university, thanks

IllinoisJones · Post by **IllinoisJones** » Mon Sep 19, 2005 1:47 pm

Well, after great discussion, we got down to the core of the matter, and it was in fact, monmey. She want's me to wait a while as I just ordered my Wested a few nights ago.

Shawnkara · Post by **Shawnkara** » Mon Sep 19, 2005 1:55 pm

LOL!!!!! Women!

Tell your wife I only spent $120.00 on my sewing machine, and I sew FOR A LIVING. It suits my needs, so there's no reason it wouldn't work for someone that can't even sew. $650.00? You're talking industrial grade, with more features than she'll ever be able to remember, much less use.
But in her defense, I think that's a common female opinion of fedoras. My wife thinks Indy's hat is ugly, too. She calls mine "the bucket".

IllinoisJones · Post by **IllinoisJones** » Mon Sep 19, 2005 2:38 pm

I thinks that with the sewing machine at least she's going to extremes because she feels I am going to extremes.

Indiana Jess · Post by **Indiana Jess** » Mon Sep 19, 2005 2:51 pm

IndianaWill wrote:When she is satifed, you are satifed...Keep a step ahead!!! Give her saisfaction!!

As my father used to say "If mom ain't happy, ain't nobody happy. If dad ain't happy, nobody cares."

DanielJones · Post by **DanielJones** » Mon Sep 19, 2005 3:37 pm

...And, if it your hard earned money, what do you need her permission for? I don't think that she is your mother, right? Subjugation will kill a marrage just as fast as money will. Put the two together and it's a recipe for disaster. There are the time for compromise, then there are the times when one must stand ones ground and not back down. Don't ever let another human being (male or female) lord over you. Like I said, she not your mother. If it is your money, do with it what you please. If the bills are paid and this is just the mad money, then get your hat man! And if she's asking for a sewing machine at that price tag, then it sounds like y'all have the bills paid and plenty of mad money to play with. But hey, that's just my two cents.

Cheers!

Dan

Calico Jack · Post by **Calico Jack** » Mon Sep 19, 2005 5:09 pm

My wife HAS a sweing machine, and won't use it... think about it, if she learns how to sew, she can help you make gear/costumes.

IllinoisJones · Post by **IllinoisJones** » Mon Sep 19, 2005 8:00 pm

I learned how to sew a while back, and I could use the machine for all intensive purposes, making her regret ever asking for it. Illinois

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